Combining COMPULSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER & SEX ADDICTION
COMPULSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER
The compulsive personality disorder is characterized by the long-term inability to express warm emotions combined with an inappropriate preoccupation with trivial rules and details. The two facets of the disorder are related. The inability to express tender emotions lends a formal and conventional quality to the relationships of compulsive personalities. Lacking
sensitivity to the affective nuances of relationships, people with the disorder tend to impose rules and regulations and to lose sight of the overall picture
in favor of orderly and scheduled ways of doing things.
As might be expected, such people are terribly work-oriented. Fun plays a minimal role in
their lives; and vacations, even when they are considered, tend to be postponed endlessly.
This disorder marks people who are not only stingy with their emotions,
but often also with their resources. While they themselves may be sensitive
to unwarranted intrusions on their time and possessions, they can thoughtlessly
intrude on the time of others, especially spouses and subordinates. Finally,
such people tend to avoid making decisions, lest they make an error.
As a result, they spend much of their time doing trivial tasks, leaving the
important ones to the last moment. They work hard, but they work inefficiently. They spend their time organizing work priorities, rather than getting the work done. As might be expected, such a disorder can have incapacitating effects on occupational functioning. Laura and Steve began to see a marriage counselor because Steve insisted on it. He had become extremely distressed by Laura's unavailability and perfectionism.
Example: At thirty-seven, Laura was a partner in one of the nation's largest accounting
firms. She worked long hours at the office, brought work home, was unwilling to go out more than once a week, and resisted taking vacations. At home, she snapped out orders to the children about housework and schoolwork. She could not tolerate an unwashed dish or a jacket on the sofa. She was critical and demanding of household help, and the cleaning staff changed frequently. Much of the time, Steve found her sexually unresponsive ( she used compulsive masturbation to satisfy her sexual desires).
Laura did not believe she had a "marriage problem," though she freely acknowledged feeling harassed at work and at home. She attributed her long hours at work to the demands of her profession. Snapping at the children and nit-picking about domestic order were, she insisted, the result of being the person who had to clean up after everyone else. Laura did not consider herself sexually un-responsive and didn't see her compulsion to masturbate an issue in the marriage, but she did think she was often tense and fatigued. The only child of upwardly striving immigrant parents, Laura had been encouraged to excel. She was valedictorian of her high school class and among the top ten of her college graduating class, The social milieu in which she grew up put great stress on the value of close family relationships. Laura never doubted that she would be a wife and mother, and she married soon after graduating college.
The compulsive personality disorder is characterized by the long-term inability to express warm emotions combined with an inappropriate preoccupation with trivial rules and details. The two facets of the disorder are related. The inability to express tender emotions lends a formal and conventional quality to the relationships of compulsive personalities. Lacking
sensitivity to the affective nuances of relationships, people with the disorder tend to impose rules and regulations and to lose sight of the overall picture
in favor of orderly and scheduled ways of doing things.
As might be expected, such people are terribly work-oriented. Fun plays a minimal role in
their lives; and vacations, even when they are considered, tend to be postponed endlessly.
This disorder marks people who are not only stingy with their emotions,
but often also with their resources. While they themselves may be sensitive
to unwarranted intrusions on their time and possessions, they can thoughtlessly
intrude on the time of others, especially spouses and subordinates. Finally,
such people tend to avoid making decisions, lest they make an error.
As a result, they spend much of their time doing trivial tasks, leaving the
important ones to the last moment. They work hard, but they work inefficiently. They spend their time organizing work priorities, rather than getting the work done. As might be expected, such a disorder can have incapacitating effects on occupational functioning. Laura and Steve began to see a marriage counselor because Steve insisted on it. He had become extremely distressed by Laura's unavailability and perfectionism.
Example: At thirty-seven, Laura was a partner in one of the nation's largest accounting
firms. She worked long hours at the office, brought work home, was unwilling to go out more than once a week, and resisted taking vacations. At home, she snapped out orders to the children about housework and schoolwork. She could not tolerate an unwashed dish or a jacket on the sofa. She was critical and demanding of household help, and the cleaning staff changed frequently. Much of the time, Steve found her sexually unresponsive ( she used compulsive masturbation to satisfy her sexual desires).
Laura did not believe she had a "marriage problem," though she freely acknowledged feeling harassed at work and at home. She attributed her long hours at work to the demands of her profession. Snapping at the children and nit-picking about domestic order were, she insisted, the result of being the person who had to clean up after everyone else. Laura did not consider herself sexually un-responsive and didn't see her compulsion to masturbate an issue in the marriage, but she did think she was often tense and fatigued. The only child of upwardly striving immigrant parents, Laura had been encouraged to excel. She was valedictorian of her high school class and among the top ten of her college graduating class, The social milieu in which she grew up put great stress on the value of close family relationships. Laura never doubted that she would be a wife and mother, and she married soon after graduating college.
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