MIXING PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER WITH SEX ADDICTION
PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER
The essential feature of the passive-aggressive personality disorder consists of a special kind of resistance to social and occupational performance demands. The resistance is not expressed directly or overtly, but rather emerges in the form of procrastination, dawdling, stubbornness, inefficiency, and forgetfulness that seems to border on the intentional.
For example,
when given an assignment by his boss, a worker will not directly express his unwillingness or inability tO do the work by saying such things as "I'm really overloaded right now," "I have no skills in that area," or "That's really Bill's job, not mine." Rather he may simply misplace the work order,
or delay doing the job because a hundred more important things suddenly
need to be done, or forget the instruction altogether. Such indirect sabotage
is called passive-aggressive because it is assumed that covert hostility is being
expressed. As might be expected, both the passive resistance and the ways in
which it is expressed, lead to long-standing social and occupational ineffectiveness.
Jeff, a thirty-year-old city planner, entered therapy when he learned that his
contract would not be renewed. The city manager pointed to his chronic tardiness,
his failure to keep up-to-date records, and his tendency to forget committee
meetings and report deadlines. Jeff was very upset. He believed that he had performed quite well-better in fact, than might be expected, considering that budget cuts had eliminated a secretary and that his boss was carping and demanding. At the same time, Jeff recognized that this was a familiar scenario that had occurred often in the past with his bosses and teachers.
Jeff had been a "difficult" child. As a youngster, he had temper tantrums. Later, he would sulk or leave if other children played a game that he did not choose. His college record was spotty-very good grades mixed with awful ones in no apparent pattern. In one seminar, for example, he failed to prepare the oral report he was scheduled to present. Yet, he insisted that he had been treated unjustly when an excellent term paper did not suffice to yield the "A" he thought he deserved.
During the past three years, he has been living with Jennifer, but that relationship,
too, is difficult. He is often sociable and fun to be with, but he is just as often
uncooperative. He leaves the domestic work to Jennifer and neglects to do even
the few tasks he has voluntarily accepted. When she makes her resentments
known, he insists that she is nagging. They also seem unable to collaborate about
how to use their free time. If Jennifer is firm about her preferences, Steve often
simply refuses to join her. And when he does acquiesce, he makes his displeasure
known through sullen silences and general lack of enthusiasm.
COMBINING SEX ISSUES AND ADDICTION
LIKE THE EXAMPLE OF STEVE...While most men are having sex with their wife in order to connect more deeply with her, the passive aggressive man withholds sex from his wife in order to keep himself safe and to show her who the boss is. Sex is a weapon to be used, not a way of connecting more deeply with his wife. Sex addiction like porn, masturbation and affairs etc are also used in this way.
To undermine your self-worth without taking action is a passive aggressive man’s ideal crime of omission...
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